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Unconditional Love
To paraphase an old Jewish tale, a Kabbalah student asks his Rabbi to sum up all the teachings
and meanings of Kabbalah in one sentence. The Rabbi replied, "Love thy neighbor as thyself, the rest is commentary,
now go live your life." What an unspeakable joy if we loved our neighbors as ourselves. Unfortunately the majority
of us don't even love ourselves, so how can we possibly love thy neighbor as thyself. I had a gentleman tell
me how much he loves himself, but is involved in the most unloving relationship you could imagine. And this
person is convinced he truly loves himself. I'm sure he does love himself, but he doesn't see or recognize his room
for improvement, in the fact he could love himself even more. We all can, our lives show us how much we love ourselves,
there's your indicator.
Now as to unconditional love. Can you even begin to imagine that there are positive
energy forces that only know and practice unconditional love. That these forces love us no matter how we think
of ourselves. And 'they' wait for us to ask them for help. That they love us regardless of who we are. How
cool is that! How cool would it be if we could start practicing unconditional love. The best way to define unconditional
love is by observing a dog with its owner. That dog loves his owner no matter what the circumstances are. Are
we capable of extending such a powerful emotion to others. I think we can, but it takes practice, and one must first
practice on oneself. Can you love yourself unconditionally and then share that love with others?
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Self-Sabotage
Self-Sabotage comes from years of human conditioning. Some of us have been trained
that we do not deserve good things, happy times, true friends, lasting happiness. We sabotage our lives because that
is what we were trained to do. Okay, so you're married, how happy are you? Truly happy? So instead of trying
to rectify the situation, making amends, giving it another go at it or if it is beyond repair, letting go and moving
on, you just stay married. And unhappy at that. I am not advocating that everyone get divorced, I'm advocating
communication, boundaries, respect, honesty, what ticks you off about your partner, talk about it. Nope, most of us
get in the rut and stay there, it's stinks, but it's comfortable, it's all we know. We expect to have miserable
lives, it's what we were taught. But it doesn't have to stay that way nor was it meant to be that way.
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